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1-18-18… Is Your Desire Holding You Out? revisited

Originally Posted: 12-7-17

I’ve been reading this book called the Subtle Art of Not Giving a F—.

There is some great wisdom in this book, so if the F word doesn’t bother you, I recommend it.  One of the quotes from the book which I found interesting is this….

“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” 

It’s interesting but the more you focus on what you don’t have the more what you don’t have is brought to reality for you.  This can be a good thing and a bad thing.  It can be good in a way, IF it creates the desire to change it and motivates you to change it.  Where it becomes a problem is when you become so fixated on what you want that you are blind to what you have.

For example, you’ve lost 50lbs at CFB and are focused on a 6 pack.  It’s fine to be excited about he progress you’ve had and be motivated to keep doing better.  It’s not fine to be so fixated on where you want to go, that you currently hate yourself.

You see desiring for a positive outcome in fitness can actually become a negative experience.  


Accepting where you’re at.  Being happy with your current progress.  Understanding how far you’ve come and then pushing to continue your progress that becomes both incredibly liberating and positive.